Marriage and Family Therapy

Single on Valentine’s?

Humans are wired for connection so it is no wonder that being single on Valentine’s Day can bring with it a sense of feeling left out.

Society has a way of communicating that being in a relationship is the only way you get to celebrate Valentine’s Day. THIS IS SIMPLY NOT TRUE! Whether you are single by choice or single for reasons beyond your control (e.g., because we are in a pandemic 😷), you do not have to be in a relationship to take part in this holiday.

There is no rule that says you have to celebrate Valentine’s Day but if you would like to, these tips may help:

—Shift the focus and be your own secret admirer

Practice self-care, compassion, and self-love. Instead of focusing on what you may not have, reframe your mindset onto what you do have and treat yourself well.

—Reduce or eliminate love triggers

Today may not be the day to watch a movie with a romantic love story or listen to love songs. Rather, try a new genre or better yet plan something new that you can look forward to. Focus on your holistic growth by going on a hike, trying a new virtual workout, participating in a new activity, and/or tuning into YouTube for some virtual travel sights. In fact, research shows planning, watching, or re-living a past travel experience in your mind can elevate the feel good chemicals as if you were actually on the trip.

—Plan a Singles Zoom Date with Friends

Get together with others to play online games, watch a movie, cook a meal together, or just hang out.

—Shower someone else with care

Do you know of someone else who is single or recently lost a loved one? Sending a small but thoughtful gift could mean the world to another. Bonus, it may bring increased levels of happiness and connection to you also.

Valentine’s Day can be a joyful time if you are within a relationship but quite difficult if you find yourself alone. If you’re struggling with severe feelings of loneliness and inability to cope, it may be a good idea to reach out to a caring mental health professional. The global pandemic has brought with it a whole array of difficult and residual effects. We all need someone sometimes to help and support.

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Marriage and Family Therapy

Lighthouse

It may be difficult to see your way to shore amongst the storms of life.

While you may not need someone to row the boat for you, it can often be helpful for another to shine the light onto the path towards a rich, full, and meaningful life.

Providing a safe harbor for my clients to seek refuge and safety from the storms of life.

Marriage and Family Therapy

Stuck—Not Broken

MY APPROACH TO HELPING

There may be days when you attend a social function, engage in a relationship, or complete a work task and appear to function just fine to others but, on the inside, you feel ramped up, on edge, feel a bit off, worried, and misunderstood—all the while your inner critic tags along and may even replay the events of the day over and over within your mind as if you are stuck in a perpetual vortex that you cannot seem to escape.

Perhaps you recently lost a loved one and find yourself enveloped within the effects of the loss. There are days when the heaviness is so great that it takes all you have to put on your armor and go out into the world with a brave face—all the while feeling shattered inside.

There may be days when you struggle with low energy and all you want to do is retreat, avoid, and push away thoughts and feelings yet you manage to the tasks at hand— all while knowing you are not fully engaged.

Perhaps you use to have a zest for life and just cannot get that feeling back or even wonder what others mean by having a zest for life.

Within this life, we may all come to feel stuck—perhaps through our spiral of suffering within anxiety, depression, grief and loss, relationships, or other life transitions and struggles—and not know how to get back to or on your life path and purpose. You may be stuck but you are not broken.

I love working with and helping people! I will partner with and empower you on your unique life journey. I use a down to earth and open minded approach towards your healing and growth. On this journey, I will walk alongside you and navigate as we work together to design a personal roadmap towards your desired destination. This approach allows for the greatest possibility of you getting back to or the discovery of your best self!

MORE INFO ABOUT MY PRACTICE

I believe that everyone’s story matters. I am driven to live out my passion and purpose of supporting others every day. Through a personally tailored approach, I partner with my clients to offer a therapeutic healing space that promotes empowerment and positive self-growth. I work best with those who are ready for and motivated towards a pivotal change—wherever that may lead us on your unique life journey. 

MY ROLE AS A THERAPIST

It is my belief that, at the core of all healing, is a supportive relationship. We each have the ability to live a rich, full, and meaningful life. I will serve the role of a guide, encourager, and advocate for you to live optimally.

When I am not at the office, I enjoy spending time with my family, listening to podcasts, practicing mindful living, traveling far and wide, reading, savoring my coffee ice cream and chai tea latte, and sitting in coffee shops catching up with my friends. One of my favorite quotes is
”You are the author of your own life story…so make it a good one!”

I am eager to meet you and excited to share in your journey!